its been busy here since we got back from florida. all the prepping and getting ready for the vow renewal, the renewal itself on the 7th, and then i started school on the 11th. then i feel like i just haven't had anything to post. i want to post, i want to vent, but i'm afraid that if i do, some people will see it and the world will explode. but if i've unfriended everyone that would cause a stink, why should it matter?
on a good side note, my dad came down for a week's visit and it was great. i haven't seen mom so happy in such a long time. and the kids couldn't get enough of him. we all miss him already. can't wait till he gets back. :)
but the real thing that bothers me is i don't understand why a parent would think that it is ok to tell their child that they (the child) essentially sucks at being a parent. my husband has tried very hard to be a parent to ALL of OUR children, but there have been obstacles in the way. namely the parent in offence. i don't understand, what would give anyone the right to call another person a failure? especially in the subject of family or in being a parent. its just wrong, so fucking wrong. we try very hard to be the best parents that we can be, and we have done very well. we get complemented on our kids all the time. and alex gets praise from his doctors all the time about how well he is cared for. yes, we have made some mistakes, but we have gone out of our way to correct and learn from them. but some people just won't give us the tools that we seek and need to be a good and responsible parent to ALL OUR kids.
yes, i will admit that i have 4 kids and 1 step-daughter... but how can i accept her as my daughter when i have never been accepted as her mom? as far as some people are concerned, i will never be anything more than.... i don't know what. its frustrating. i was supposed to be temporary, a phase. we were supposed to last just 2-3 years, then he would move on. that's not what happened, we are now a well bonded family, permanent. and sayurday's ceremony was meant to prove that to some people. and i have a feeling it left a bad taste in her mouth.
laters.
Blessed Be.
I can think of a dozen or more ways to describe everyone in this house and none would include the way that woman thinks about any of us, especially her son. We are all good people doing good things, not only for ourselves but for everyone around us. Forget her and anything she has said or ever will say about Damien or anyone else. I am very proud of both of you and the way you are trying to raise these children. And I hope both of you enjoy a long and beautiful live together. Love Always
ReplyDeletethank you, mama... its easy to forget things that other people say, but its harder when its a parent, because are supposed to have words of wisdom. only time, a lot of time, can heal this one.
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